Bridging The Gaps Ministries

What Can We Do to Help Those Longing for Freedom from Their Same Gender Attractions?

As Ambassadors for Christ Where Have We Failed?

“I’m the daughter of a Baptist pastor. I am now married but I have struggled with homosexuality most of my life. I can tell you absolutely I did not choose these feelings. I know how my parents and other church members feel about this because I have heard them speak strongly about how terrible homosexuality is. I felt horrible growing up knowing how they felt. There are times when I just do not want to go on living.”

“I am 19 years old and I’m gay. I’ve had these feelings for as long as I can remember. I was raised in a Christian home. I know the Bible says that homosexuality is a sin but are the feelings sinful or the acts? Any advice or help you provide will be greatly appreciated. Please just pray for me. Please!”

“I am married and a former church staff member. I often struggle with thoughts of suicide because I’ve despaired of being able to change. I could never talk to my pastor or other church members. I’ve heard the talk and the ‘jokes’. I feel very alone.”

What Can We Do?
Develop a “safe” atmosphere. Are you totally confident that none of the above
situations have happened in your church? Do parents and friends of strugglers
feel safe to share their concerns? Develop an atmosphere where strugglers and
those close to them feel free to ask for help without fear of rejection or

Be a friend! One of the most helpful things in decreasing same gender attractions
is mentoring. This is a basic Christian discipleship. Those who have
successfully left their lesbian or gay past received Godly mentoring from a
member of the same gender.

Learn to identify. Be honest about struggles you have had with strongholds in your
life or in your marriage. The fruit of our sins may be different but the roots
are the same.

Be informed and educated. Get the most up to date and relevant information. Be
prepared to wisely and compassionately speak the truth.

Encourage your church and association to familiarize themselves with the work of those
who have successfully left homosexuality through a healing relationship with
God and a loving church family

Contact Us if you have any questions.

The above information was compiled and edited from the SBC Task force on ministry to homosexuals

2 Responses

  1. I left the homosexual lifestyle in l981 and went through an inner healing process as I committed my life to Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior. I have been changed through my personal relationship with Jesus Christ and through the study, meditation, living, and speaking of the Word of God. I went through Bible school at VBI, in Tulsa, Oklahoma and my life began to change. I found my identity through Christ and not through people in codependent relationships. I learned and am still learning to live by faith and not by my feelings or by what I see. Fear changed to faith, one day at a time, and I was loved back to life through many pastors, teachers, counselors, and mentors in the body of Christ. I left all gay contacts and all New Age materials, breaking all ungodly soulties. My testimony is found online at It will publish with Westbow Press this year. Through the walk of purity, I continue to be changed from the inside out into the woman of god that I was created to be before I was in my mother’s womb. As I worked through the traumas, pains, rejections, and also my ungodly behavior patterns formed as a result of what I experienced, I found the rest of God. I still read the Word of God daily to stay focused on the Lord. Speaking the Word of God and taking authority over my negative thoughts, emotions, and even spiritual oppression, I have experienced that “Greater is He (Jesus) who abides within me, than he who is in the world.” (1st John 4:4) My book has personal testimony, scriptures, prayers, and research. Feel free to read it and share it with anyone who will glean from its contents. Marriage is not the cure for homosexuality. I believe that our desires line up with what God intended for us as we are transformed in our thinking and our beliefs through the Word of God. Honesty with God brings us the Holy Spirit and He has and continues to guide me each and every day. My stony heart has been healed and reopened through healthy relationships with both men and women. My sense of inferiority has changed to a confidence in God with me. My worth has been changed to believe that every created being has value and purpose. I have the choice to say no to everything that is not of God. And my will is being strengthened as I ask God to reveal His perfect will in my life. .”For I am convinced that nothing shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Feel free to read my book and share it with anyone who will glean from its contents. In Him, Lonnie Trevisan (bonnie M. Egglehand – penname) (Book found as “free read”) Keep the Word of God close to you heart and to your mouth. Ask, believe, and speak for God to remove every mountain that is in your way. (Mark 11;23)

  2. I would like to share my testimonial of freedom from the homosexual deception. It can be accessed at It will be published with Westbow Press this year. In l981, after eight years of promiscuity with men and women, I submitted to Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior, with repentance for my sins. I was nursing a child in her home and the family brought me to the Lord. On the job, I asked the Lord Jesus to forgive me and professed my faith in Him and in His resurrection. I welcomed Him into my heart. From that time on, I embarked on an inner healing journey as I chose to walk in purity with Jesus. I believed that the Lord would change me and heal me of the many wounds of childhood. I believed that I would emerge free from this deception from Satan. This is about a walk to become more like Jesus as we follow Him, study His Word, live and speak His Word, get connected to healthy Christian people, and face the hurts and painful memories of childhood with forgiveness and a release of blame. Perfect love cast out all fear. When I spoke the Word of God in Jesus’ delegated authority, fear left and evil spirits fled. Christian counseling helped me to see my own ungodly behavior patterns as well and seek to change them. The greatest part of healing comes I believe when we forgive ourselves and fully receive the love, acceptance, and forgiveness from God. Jesus took the sin of homosexuality upon Him 2000 years ago and we who receive Him do also receive His gift of forgiveness for all our sins. (Ps. 103:1-3) He who knew no sin became sin for us so that we might become the righteousness of God. (2nd Cor. 5:21) Once we come to Him with a repentant heart, we are right with Him.

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