What Can We Do to Help Those Longing for Freedom from Their Same Gender Attractions?

by | Sep 17, 2014 | Blog

As Ambassadors for Christ Where Have We Failed?

“I’m the daughter of a Baptist pastor. I am now married but I have struggled with homosexuality most of my life. I can tell you absolutely I did not choose these feelings. I know how my parents and other church members feel about this because I have heard them speak strongly about how terrible homosexuality is. I felt horrible growing up knowing how they felt. There are times when I just do not want to go on living.”

“I am 19 years old and I’m gay. I’ve had these feelings for as long as I can remember. I was raised in a Christian home. I know the Bible says that homosexuality is a sin but are the feelings sinful or the acts? Any advice or help you provide will be greatly appreciated. Please just pray for me. Please!”

“I am married and a former church staff member. I often struggle with thoughts of suicide because I’ve despaired of being able to change. I could never talk to my pastor or other church members. I’ve heard the talk and the ‘jokes’. I feel very alone.”

What Can We Do?
Develop a “safe” atmosphere. Are you totally confident that none of the above
situations have happened in your church? Do parents and friends of strugglers
feel safe to share their concerns? Develop an atmosphere where strugglers and
those close to them feel free to ask for help without fear of rejection or

Be a friend! One of the most helpful things in decreasing same gender attractions
is mentoring. This is a basic Christian discipleship. Those who have
successfully left their lesbian or gay past received Godly mentoring from a
member of the same gender.

Learn to identify. Be honest about struggles you have had with strongholds in your
life or in your marriage. The fruit of our sins may be different but the roots
are the same.

Be informed and educated. Get the most up to date and relevant information. Be
prepared to wisely and compassionately speak the truth.

Encourage your church and association to familiarize themselves with the work of those
who have successfully left homosexuality through a healing relationship with
God and a loving church family

Contact Us if you have any questions.

The above information was compiled and edited from the SBC Task force on ministry to homosexuals